anjelica ` aj ' hadsell , 18 , has been missing since march 2 , when she was home in norfolk while on spring break from longwood university .
her stepgrandmother says police are n't doing enough to find aj and that her son was unjustly arrested while pursuing his own investigation .
aj 's stepdad wesley hadsell has been in jail since breaking into a home he says is connected to the crime .
mr. hadsell is awaiting a hearing on four charges of obstructing justice , a charge of possessing ammunition after a felony and breaking and entering .